I have neglected my mother's day posts for a couple of days, things just got busy :) I have however, been reading and thinking. Why do Mom's get such a bad reputation? Why is it casually dismissed when we say, "I am a mom"? Jane tells a story in her book about how she was at a party and someone asked her what she did. She said that she was a Mom and after an audible pause, the party goer said, "well that's nice" and walked away! Jane said she knew if she would have said a foreign correspondent of something like that, the party goer would have stayed and talked to her longer. She quotes a study where the researcher said that back in the days when farmers depended on their crops for their livlihood, the women were equal partners with them. There was no farm with out each other. As time went on, things that women did (sew, wash etc.) were mechanized and their labors were now automatic. The men went to work and their labors were judged by a paycheck. I think that pretty much explains it personally.
There are instances when women have to work. My mom worked while we were growing up. I know it was hard for her to balance the two, my dad worked in the morning and she worked in the evening so there was always someone home. What sacrifice on both their parts! Personally I respect the crappin's out of working mom's! Coming home from one job to catch up on everything their kids have done/dirtied during the day...
I just want to say I know Motherhood matters! It is like the talk in conference (I am sorry I can't remember who it is) but they said that the love of a mother is like the love of Christ. So selfless, unconditional. When we have those horrid bad days were everyone seems mad at you, where nothing goes right, from one thing to the next with grumpy kids (hubby's in tow) we as mother's matter! It breaks my heart when people think being a mother is something to casually dismiss because it means the world to me, I love it so much!
Thursday, May 6, 2010
Monday, May 3, 2010
"You must allow the Lord to use you..."
Todays post is kind of a continuation from yesterdays theme of being a"pencil in the hand of God". What a wonderful thought, being a pencil in the hand of God. Isn't that cool? I mean, what a concept! Letting the Lord use us to change lives, for us to be humble and moldable enough to be the tool for the Lord to change lives.
As Jane opens her second chapter, she talks about her story. When she started BYU, she had a script for her life, when whe would be married, when she would have kids, graduate, etc. Not much went according to her plan. She didn't get married until AFTER she graduated. She didn't graduate in the field she wanted originally, and so on. Even though some of her journey has been painful, where she is now makes her 'soul happy'.
One of the events in her life that was different than planned, was when she got offered a job in NYC. In the midst of moving (from the west coast!) she received a phone call from Elder Maxwell's office saying he wanted, if possible, to meet with her and give her a blessing for her new job. She said that many things were said in the blessing but one of the things that stood out to her was "you must allow the Lord to use you". Her religion made her an "anomoly" in her career. She said that many times she would be introduced to someone and they would say "Oh you're the Mormon!' or "I don't know any Mormons!"
As her contract with CBS was drawing to an end, her manager got her a "lucrative" contract with another station, truly what her career was headed to. But something else had also happened, she had just gotten engaged. She said that God had placed before her two very separate paths. To let her deal expire would not be placing her career on hold, but ending it. This is why I love Jane! After much thought and prayer, she decided to start her family. As she said in my graduation ceremony (yes, I have met her! She did indeed speak at my graduation, I already loved her and her story though!) "It is easier to craft a resume than to rebuild your family". What faith, not to mention strength, to choose a family over a promising career.
The title of this blog can be applied to many situations in life, but this week lets apply it to mother's: We are teaching our children all they need to know, right from the simplest of tasks such as using a fork and a spoon, to getting dressed. We also need to teach them to look to the Lord. The calling of being a mother is such a sacred, shared experience with the creator, He will continue to use us even after life had begun. Even those of us who do not have children yet will be a tool in His hand to teach others. It is a divine right that befalls each of us as women.
So to all women who are reading this blog, I will end with a challenge: How can we allow the Lord to use us? No matter our situation, that is part of our Divine Nature, God has placed in us potential, a divine destiny to help Him better the kingdom here on earth, lets allow Him to use us and see where that takes us! We can't go wrong with the Lord on our side guiding our steps!
As Jane opens her second chapter, she talks about her story. When she started BYU, she had a script for her life, when whe would be married, when she would have kids, graduate, etc. Not much went according to her plan. She didn't get married until AFTER she graduated. She didn't graduate in the field she wanted originally, and so on. Even though some of her journey has been painful, where she is now makes her 'soul happy'.
One of the events in her life that was different than planned, was when she got offered a job in NYC. In the midst of moving (from the west coast!) she received a phone call from Elder Maxwell's office saying he wanted, if possible, to meet with her and give her a blessing for her new job. She said that many things were said in the blessing but one of the things that stood out to her was "you must allow the Lord to use you". Her religion made her an "anomoly" in her career. She said that many times she would be introduced to someone and they would say "Oh you're the Mormon!' or "I don't know any Mormons!"
As her contract with CBS was drawing to an end, her manager got her a "lucrative" contract with another station, truly what her career was headed to. But something else had also happened, she had just gotten engaged. She said that God had placed before her two very separate paths. To let her deal expire would not be placing her career on hold, but ending it. This is why I love Jane! After much thought and prayer, she decided to start her family. As she said in my graduation ceremony (yes, I have met her! She did indeed speak at my graduation, I already loved her and her story though!) "It is easier to craft a resume than to rebuild your family". What faith, not to mention strength, to choose a family over a promising career.
The title of this blog can be applied to many situations in life, but this week lets apply it to mother's: We are teaching our children all they need to know, right from the simplest of tasks such as using a fork and a spoon, to getting dressed. We also need to teach them to look to the Lord. The calling of being a mother is such a sacred, shared experience with the creator, He will continue to use us even after life had begun. Even those of us who do not have children yet will be a tool in His hand to teach others. It is a divine right that befalls each of us as women.
So to all women who are reading this blog, I will end with a challenge: How can we allow the Lord to use us? No matter our situation, that is part of our Divine Nature, God has placed in us potential, a divine destiny to help Him better the kingdom here on earth, lets allow Him to use us and see where that takes us! We can't go wrong with the Lord on our side guiding our steps!
Sunday, May 2, 2010
"A Pencil in the hand of God"
"I am like a pencil in God's hand. That is all. He does the thinking. He does the writing. The pencil has nothing to do with it. The pencil has only to be allowed to be used." Mother Teresa: Missionary of Compassion, Time, December 4, 1989.
Long have we been told that "The Hand that rocks the cradle rules the world", where does that saying come from even? For so long I have just heard it repeated and repeated. Perhaps because it is repeated so much, it becomes more common place and while it still means a lot, it is just another one of those cute sayings that is logged back in the files of our brain somewhere.
Even Oprah says that "To play mothering down as small is to crack the very foundation on which greatness stands." Back when I sold Mary Kay, the saying at our meetings was "If Oprah likes it: every woman in America likes it. "It still doesn't seem however, that women know that being a mother is a Divine calling. Perhaps it is because more women are in the workplace. They have been in charge of budgets, in board meetings, they have been a place where they receive some sort of praise and pat on the back for doing something good for the company.
When I was a Financial Manager, I loved what I did. If I might be so bold, I think I did my job well. (I know that sounds prideful!) I always wanted to be stay-at-home mom (SAHM) but part of me wondered if I could really do that after I had done so much in the workplace? Perhaps that is why the choice was made for me to leave that job. Back then I couldn't understand why I could be fired for a bogus reason. I was so mad that my name would be smeared so badly; after I had done so much to better that company, why would they tell so many lies about me? How could they treat me that way and still feel good about themselves? I suppose I still have baggage from that experience, but a little more clearly every day, Heavenly Father reveals a little bit of His plan to me. I can truly say that nothing I ever did at my old job would even compare with those big blue eyes of my baby smiling at me while she eats, or a glancing smile while we plant flowers. A hug or a slobbery kiss followed by a sparkle of happiness in those eyes, that just does something to my soul that makes me feel so whole. Nothing I ever did at that job could possibly make me feel as good as she makes me feel!
In "I am a Mother" Jane Clayson Johnson tells a story about going to a dinner in D.C. with her husband and about 75 mostly LDS couples of different professions got up after dinner to tell a little about themselves. The Men told of their careers but when it came time for the wives to stand, mostly all of them said to some effect, "I'm just a mom". As a society we hear that a lot, that motherhood is a day full of meaningless tasks. Mopping up spilled milk, changing diapers, cleaning up lunch, etc.
I think Jane says it best is summing up her first chapter. She ends by quoting Elder Jeffrey R. Holland (which she has typed up and on her nightstand): "'You are doing God's work. You are doing it wonderfully well. He is blessing you and He will bless you, even--no especially-- when your days and nights are most challenging. Like the woman who anonymously, meekly, perhaps even with hesitation and some embarassment, fought her way through the crowd just to touch the hem of the Master's garment, so Christ will say to the women who worry and wonder and weep over their responsibility as mothers, 'Daughter, be of good comfort; thy faith hath made thee whole.' And it will make your children whole as well.
'That is a mother.
'We are mothers.
'The next time someone inquires what you do or asks you to describe yourself, would you say with confidence and with joy, 'I am a Mother'?"
Long have we been told that "The Hand that rocks the cradle rules the world", where does that saying come from even? For so long I have just heard it repeated and repeated. Perhaps because it is repeated so much, it becomes more common place and while it still means a lot, it is just another one of those cute sayings that is logged back in the files of our brain somewhere.
Even Oprah says that "To play mothering down as small is to crack the very foundation on which greatness stands." Back when I sold Mary Kay, the saying at our meetings was "If Oprah likes it: every woman in America likes it. "It still doesn't seem however, that women know that being a mother is a Divine calling. Perhaps it is because more women are in the workplace. They have been in charge of budgets, in board meetings, they have been a place where they receive some sort of praise and pat on the back for doing something good for the company.
When I was a Financial Manager, I loved what I did. If I might be so bold, I think I did my job well. (I know that sounds prideful!) I always wanted to be stay-at-home mom (SAHM) but part of me wondered if I could really do that after I had done so much in the workplace? Perhaps that is why the choice was made for me to leave that job. Back then I couldn't understand why I could be fired for a bogus reason. I was so mad that my name would be smeared so badly; after I had done so much to better that company, why would they tell so many lies about me? How could they treat me that way and still feel good about themselves? I suppose I still have baggage from that experience, but a little more clearly every day, Heavenly Father reveals a little bit of His plan to me. I can truly say that nothing I ever did at my old job would even compare with those big blue eyes of my baby smiling at me while she eats, or a glancing smile while we plant flowers. A hug or a slobbery kiss followed by a sparkle of happiness in those eyes, that just does something to my soul that makes me feel so whole. Nothing I ever did at that job could possibly make me feel as good as she makes me feel!
In "I am a Mother" Jane Clayson Johnson tells a story about going to a dinner in D.C. with her husband and about 75 mostly LDS couples of different professions got up after dinner to tell a little about themselves. The Men told of their careers but when it came time for the wives to stand, mostly all of them said to some effect, "I'm just a mom". As a society we hear that a lot, that motherhood is a day full of meaningless tasks. Mopping up spilled milk, changing diapers, cleaning up lunch, etc.
I think Jane says it best is summing up her first chapter. She ends by quoting Elder Jeffrey R. Holland (which she has typed up and on her nightstand): "'You are doing God's work. You are doing it wonderfully well. He is blessing you and He will bless you, even--no especially-- when your days and nights are most challenging. Like the woman who anonymously, meekly, perhaps even with hesitation and some embarassment, fought her way through the crowd just to touch the hem of the Master's garment, so Christ will say to the women who worry and wonder and weep over their responsibility as mothers, 'Daughter, be of good comfort; thy faith hath made thee whole.' And it will make your children whole as well.
'That is a mother.
'We are mothers.
'The next time someone inquires what you do or asks you to describe yourself, would you say with confidence and with joy, 'I am a Mother'?"
Saturday, May 1, 2010
Mother's Day
So I have been thinking that I have a neglected blog: no if's and's or but's about it! I also have no one who checks my blog, probably because it is so neglected. But I have a sudden urge to try and post entries this week. Where this urge came from I don't know, but here I go!
For Mother's day I have been thinking a lot about the calling of Mother's. Truly there is no better calling in life, there is also probably none with a greater challenge. We are shaping chilren's lives. Teaching them, molding their futures. Little spirits sent to US to take care of in this state of the plan of salvation. Has the enormity of this calling started to weigh down on you yet? Elder Neal A. Maxwell said, "When the real history of mankind is fully disclosed, will it feature the echoes of gunfire or the shaping sound of lullabies? The great armistices made by military men or the peacemaking of women in homes and in neighborhoods? Will what happened in cradles and kitchens prove to be more controlling than what happened in congresses?"
On the same point Ana Quindlen (Pulitzer prize winner and mother) said, "If any of us engaged is the work of mothering thought much about it as the task of fashioning the fine points of civilization we would be frozen into immobility by the enormity of the task." How true that is! I remember when we found out that Sophie was on her way, I was so scared. The enormity of the situation hit me full force! Still, over this past year, almost year and a half, I have a new confidence about who I now am, and that is a MOTHER.
During this week, I will try 'Julie and Julia' kind of thing for my hidden readers. I will be reading "I am a Mother" by Jane Clayson Johnson and blogging about my feelings and adventures over this past year, almost year and a half. I hope you will find it uplifting, so that when the days come that are overwhelming and bleak, you can say to yourself, "I am NOT just a mom or stay-at home mom, I am a mother!"
For Mother's day I have been thinking a lot about the calling of Mother's. Truly there is no better calling in life, there is also probably none with a greater challenge. We are shaping chilren's lives. Teaching them, molding their futures. Little spirits sent to US to take care of in this state of the plan of salvation. Has the enormity of this calling started to weigh down on you yet? Elder Neal A. Maxwell said, "When the real history of mankind is fully disclosed, will it feature the echoes of gunfire or the shaping sound of lullabies? The great armistices made by military men or the peacemaking of women in homes and in neighborhoods? Will what happened in cradles and kitchens prove to be more controlling than what happened in congresses?"
On the same point Ana Quindlen (Pulitzer prize winner and mother) said, "If any of us engaged is the work of mothering thought much about it as the task of fashioning the fine points of civilization we would be frozen into immobility by the enormity of the task." How true that is! I remember when we found out that Sophie was on her way, I was so scared. The enormity of the situation hit me full force! Still, over this past year, almost year and a half, I have a new confidence about who I now am, and that is a MOTHER.
During this week, I will try 'Julie and Julia' kind of thing for my hidden readers. I will be reading "I am a Mother" by Jane Clayson Johnson and blogging about my feelings and adventures over this past year, almost year and a half. I hope you will find it uplifting, so that when the days come that are overwhelming and bleak, you can say to yourself, "I am NOT just a mom or stay-at home mom, I am a mother!"
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